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the wedding – a shot I love

This is one of my favorite shots that I’ve received as part of my preview from my amazing photographer Rukshan of Ferndara Photography.

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This was taken at our reception at Red Scooter, I don’t really remember when as the night was such a wonderful blur of happiness.

I love the moment it captured between us, and I love that it shows off the only real decorations I bothered with for the wedding – fairy lights, and hand decoupaged lanterns strung everywhere, like a wonderland.

It’s safe to say that everytime I see this shot, I feel very, very happy indeed at the magical wedding we got to have.

guess what happened?

Just a little update as to what happened on the weekend. More photos going up on the Facebook Page throughout the week, then in 2 weeks time the Wedding Part 2 and Part 3 is happening, so keep coming back! :)

Sharon Pakir Stephen Krygger Wedding Photo Parliament House - By Ferndara Creative

Photo by Ferndara Creative

can a grown man fit into a baby swim float?

So. Tonight S for some inexplicable reason decided to test the limits of physics.

OH YES HE DID.

I came home and saw this on the kitchen counter.

infant swim seat float

INFANT SWIM SEAT

Yup. Apparently as a prop he’s going to use for some work games thing. (Yes, those are flippers in the background of the shot. No, I don’t want to know what this work game involves.)

So S holds this box up, like something brilliant is brewing in his mind, smiles coyly at me and says, “Wanna see me get into it?”

Err.

People.

PEOPLE.

THIS is a man who weighed almost 11 pounds (almost 5 kilos!) at birth.

Our nickname for him at the dance school is Mr Incredible because he hasn’t exactly changed in stature from birth till now. He’s still larger than life, musclier than most, and well, simply put, HE’S NOT A SMALL MAN.

Plus he bought the smallest POSSIBLE swim float. For 6-12 month old infants. Maximum weight = 11kg (not that he was planning to use it as an actual floating device or anything so PHEW).

And so I watch. With a mix of trepidation and fascination.

And he cuts it up.

And blows it into its intended shape.

Disappears behind the kitchen door to don it.

Don’t worry, this is Safe For Work.

No nudity on THIS site, EVER.

And.

Ladies and gentlemen, apparently, I am marrying a genius. Or a madman.

I present to you, for the supreme cause of THE GIGGLES:

OOH LA LA! VOILA! IT EVEN FITS! *SPEECHLESS*

The thing I love about S? He NEVER stops at a costume opportunity. And will travel the distance to make it entertaining. What’s the most unlikely item of costume you’ve used for a prop?

on love

We think a lot, I think, as young people, about grappling the meaning of love, what it is, whether we’ve found it, who will show us the meaning of its true form. As we go through our youthful dating phases, we are all looking for that magic “true love”. When I hadn’t found S, I used to hear my happily married friends say to me, “when you find it, you just know.”

And every single time I heard it, I cringed.

YOU JUST KNOW? WHAT IN HELL IS THAT SUPPOSED TO MEAN??

But you know what? They were right.

How annoying.

Now that I am one of those annoying “you just know” people, having found the man of my life, and on the cusp of honouring our commitment to each other in the form of marriage, I have been thinking a lot about our vows, about what love is exactly, about its most important aspects.

When you possess young love, love is beautiful, fun, carefree. The beautiful thing is that as we draw closer to our wedding and after 3 years of being together, we haven’t lost any of that giggly, cuddly, playfulness. In addition to that though, I am starting to understand long term love. In addition to all the wonderful exuberant bits that rather delightfully don’t dissipate, there are these deeper feelings that smoulder and burn long and deep, that come with responsibility and maturity, that have true care and selflessness built into it.

These are the parts of love, I guess, that are hard to summarise, and I am looking forward to feeling them even more acutely in our many many years ahead together. It’s a truly amazing thing to grow within a relationship with someone, and is the major part of our relationship that I never want to lose.

I guess I’ve been trying to find a way to describe this meaning of love, not just the good stuff, but the stuff that makes us stronger even when things are difficult, or when we need to be supportive to each other. Life is hard, and marked with twists and turns for us to meander, and riddled with moments of pain. As we get older, more is going to happen. People die. Family members get sick. Friends have tragedies. Work gets more stressful.  YOU get sick. Shit happens. And through these moments, you need your partner and you to be strong and hand holding even tighter. That’s the love I’m talking about.

I’m extremely lucky to have been modelled that very love by my own parents (35 years together and counting!) and HIS parents (almost 50 years together). They have been through literally, several worlds together, whole eras, insurmountable difficulties and raised grown children with trials and tribulations of complex lives. And somehow, maintained that love.

Words are difficult to find though, to demonstrate these role models we have, and it took this Sufi poet’s lines to take my breath away and encompass, rather perfectly, what this love means.

Oh yes it does. ENJOY.

happy birthdays to me!

Maha goodness. :)

Well I’ve been a super spoilt, super lucky girl this last fortnight. Though it wasn’t quite as lavish as last year’s birthday month, it has certainly given me countless moments to reflect on my blessings, feel incredibly loved, be surrounded by amazing friends, and generally just be a very smiley (and inebriated) girl indeed!

It started out with being totally unprepared for my birthday’s arrival, given the crazy month I’ve had. The day before my actual birthday though, the lovely Ange, Krin and my dance partner Sam took me out to lunch at DUMPLINGS, which totally counteracted the awful rainy winter day we were having. Then they took me to dessert at Max Brenners – I’d totally forgotten just how good it was, and it was all I could do to stop myself from applauding the sweet treats as they arrived at our table.

mmmmmm.

The evening of the birthday eve, I last minutedly requested that a small group of friends join me for a chilled drink nearby the studio after a coaching lesson I taught. It ended up, as soirees with good friends tend to do with alcohol as a fuel, being anything BUT chilled. Let’s just say that 4 hours later, we ended up at a place called Sahara Nights across the road – the local middle eastern shisha kebab nightclub complete with LIT UP hats and headbands, pop music mixed into belly dance beats, giggles and shisha inhaling madness, cocktails with way too many umbrellas in each one, and it just gets dodgier and dodgier the more I try to dredge up the memories in my head. Let me show you just HOW dodgy and insanely fun it was:

drinks at atticus finch started out soooo sedate and nice

and then Sahara Nights made us... crazy.

By the time I stumbled home, S was already in bed and I lovingly tried to cuddle him to sleep. He told me the next day that I smelt like a brewery and that I should have kept on my own side of the bed! CHIVALRY!

My actual birthday morning, S tiptoed into the room, sure that I would be hungover as hell. Well, I was not. I bolted upright in bed, yelled HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO ME!!! And put my arms out for a huge cuddle and kiss! To my extreme excitedness, my handsome man came bearing an armful of gifts!

not 1, but 2 kinds of flowers! SPOILT!

Plus, remember that Shopbop parcel that’s been lying in wait for me to open it?

WELL….

drumroll….

Super spoilt!

We also had lunch at Hellenic Republic with his lovely family, and I met his cousin Maree for the first time, who was just a delight! Amazing food, wonderful company, S’ mum surprised me with some flowers toooooooo, and some new moccasins for winter at my request. Nothing not to love there.

i get to marry into this gorgeous family...

I must’ve still been a little err drunk from the night before – I only had 2 glasses of champagne at lunch, and then was a little “giddy”… and then when the birthday dessert got served, I squawked “AND NOW SING ME THE BIRTHDAY SONG!” and wonderful family that they are, they totally complied! HA!

S and I spent the afternoon doing something we practically NEVER get to do since we don’t get the same days off – we wandered around the Melbourne CBD. I love how beautiful Melbourne is, and walking hand in hand with S in the drizzle, waltzing around various stores, kissing on street corners and enjoying the day was simply sublime.

:)

My birthday night was the evening of the Australian Salsa & Latin Open – Victoria. I had to work at this event – judging it – but it was ALL good even though it was my birthday, because I got one of the best birthday presents a coach could ask for. I got to watch my “kids” NAIL it on stage. All 4 of them that competed simply danced their best that night, the best I’ve ever seen them, and exactly what I had always envisioned of them, and it was overwhelming and simply more than I could’ve asked for. Nothing more gratifying to pour your heart and soul into people and watch them shine as a result.

diana, andrew, christian, lys - i was so proud!

The day after my birthday, and after a GOOD sleep, S took me to my birthday dinner. He has a habit of choosing absolutely brilliant restaurants for my birthdays, and this year was no exception. We went to MAHA, and feasted like sultans. It was a brilliant night shared with a special man, and I felt utterly adored and adoring in return! (Also, just as a bit of random relationship advice – there is NOTHING better than a man who upon watching your eyes light up at a certain shared dish, proclaims it ALL YOURS).

Maha goodness. :)

A week of work went by after that weekend, and then THIS WEEKEND, it started all over again.

Firstly, S took me to Rock the Ballet by Rasta Thomas – we’d watched it last year and absolutely loved it! As always, we made a night of it by frocking up, having dinner at the Arts Centre Curve Bar, and then watching the show itself with cocktails at intermission!

HALLO BOIZ.

love a night at the theatre!

The next night, he took me to a BALL at the Crown Palladium. How absolutely fun to get frocked up, and venture out with him, dance, eat good food, and watch the fashions out there. It was a footy ball of sorts, so there was PLENTY of bad fashion and skunky behaviour to watch and be amused by! I know it sounds terrible – but when you have girls throwing up in the bathroom by 9pm, you know you’re at a special kind of ball! In any case, we had a brilliant time with a couple of his friends, plus the great band, funny MCs and great food.

my dress is compliments of Zampera. His suit is from Satch.

On Sunday, I embarked on my yearly birthday luncheon with the laydees – the champagne lunch at Number 8, also at Crown. This year the free flow was Moet Chandon, which was super duper pleasing, and the menu has expanded and the food and service was still impeccable. PLUS, I got to hang with some of my favourite women who inspire me with their fabulousness, have an amazing time, and oh, did I mention the free flow of Moet?

ladies who lunch!

That shot was taken at the BEGINNING of the lunch, when we were all still very sober, thank you very much.

Needless to say, after 4 hours of Moet, by the time I headed to my birthday party itself at Trunk, I was… HAPPY. HAPPY HAPPY HAPPY OH YEAH OH YEAH.

Unfortunately, by this stage, I no longer had presence of mind to remember that I even owned a camera, let alone use it, so I don’t have any photos of the evening. :(

BUT I was superbly elated to walk into Trunk to find OODLES of people who had come despite my 5 DAYS notice that I was having a party. I’m serious. I thought there may be 10-20 people. But everyone kept showing up in droves, DROVES I tell you,and ever 5 minutes was a moment of OH HAI! I CAN’T BELIEVE YOU CAME! THANK YOU FOR COMING! and more (hic) drinks, good vibes everywhere, and friends from my different communities and walks of life coming together.

All.

Because.

I.

Said.

Please.

Wow. Highly amazing, having a room filled with such wonderment. At one stage, I remember (blearily) gazing upon everyone sitting in little clusters, enjoying good conversation over wines, sound of laughter pealing across the bar, and was filled with great gratitude – to have good friends is one thing. But to have a community of truly nice people around you? Who rock up on a super cold day just to celebrate your birthday and present you with the HUGEST card you’ve ever seen? AMAZING.

Plus, I hear that everyone banded together to create me the best present EVER, TOTALLY unprecedented, and organised by the one and only Alison. But I’ll wait till I receive it to confirm. Because this is truly a once in a lifetime moment of specialness.

So.

If you’re still reading after this 1300 word essay that was my birthday shenanigans, congratulations! You survived!

Seriously though, wasn’t it amazing?

GLARE.

SAY IT WAS AMAZING.

(yup, maybe still a little inebriated after all. and GLOWING from all the goodness around me.)

GRIN.

 

birthday boy

correct me if I'm wrong but he looks like he is LOVING IT!

A bit over a month ago (and before we got all engaged), it was S’ birthday.

He wanted to keep it low key, and so we had a small family barbeque for him at home with his folks and girls.

quite nice actually!

The problem though is that S spoils me rotten ALL the time – and here we were making the poor man work like a smoke chef on his own birthday. So I decided to keep it low key, whilst trying to show him just how special he is to all of us.

Firstly, as soon as he got home from work, I made him wear a BIRTHDAY BOY badge. He was sooooo thrilled!

aww! cute!

I also decorated the table we set all the food on.

By the end of the night, after a lot of eating, a bit of champagne and a lot of merriment, I ended up decorating him as well for the clincher.

correct me if I'm wrong but he looks like he is LOVING IT!

All in all I think it made S happy, even if it was nothing like the scale he tends to pamper me with. I don’t think I could possibly match up to his impossibly high standards though, so really, he only has himself to blame. :)

happily ever after

happily ever after quote

This is so true. SO TRUE.

happily ever after quote

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