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iPad for my favourite senior

ipad for seniors class

It’s no secret that one of my favorite classes to teach is iPad for Seniors with my other business, The Capability Project. I find teaching seniors incredibly rewarding, whether it’s classes in their laptops, pc’s, phones, or Kindles. Any gadget really. It’s more the demographic – seniors are appreciative of teaching, are good students, have great existing life experiences to draw upon, and frankly, are fun to coach.

There’s something about the satisfaction of watching someone overcome a lack of digital knowledge, shaky arthritic fingers and poor ailing eyesight to become proficient in using and having fun with their gadgets. The joy that comes when they gleefully show you how they’ve downloaded an app, or read an e-book, or sent an email, is indescribable. Additionally, because they haven’t grown up in a technological era, the wonderment of buying music with a click of a button, or Skyping a loved one overseas, never gets old. Magical.

ipad for seniors class

my best teaching achievement yet

My favourite teaching achievement has been found this week though – teaching my favourite senior, my daddy, to use his damn iPad. My dad has always been a proponent and champion and early adopter of new technology, but sadly, the iPad and iPhone have thus far evaded him due to a lack of time, interest and difficulty in moving his fingers dextrously.

Hand him a stylus and add lots of his favourite music onto the thing though, and suddenly he is excited, and patient enough to learn. This week he has been rather happily flipping through music, watching videos and singing along. In fact, when I tried to show him how to access the BBC News app, he brushed me aside, with an insistent “I already KNOW how to do that!”.

Sweet success, sweet indeed.

PS, excited about iOS5? Make sure you update your apps to ensure compatibility with the update!

 

great students make great learners

the capability project by sharon pakir

I’ve written a post about what makes a great student up on my professional site, The Capability Project.

the capability project by sharon pakir

I know many of my readers here are avid learners of dance, so if you want to learn about what is SERIOUSLY my most inspirational student I have at the moment, please go on over and have a read!

If you’d like to be kept up to date with the inspiring things we’re reading and posting about, do join us on facebook as well.

Enjoy!

 

the capability project: launched

On Sunday, I finally launched my consultancy, The Capability Project.

The Capability Project is my dream job, and one that I truly feel I have skills in – working with people, teams and organisations become their best selves, enhancing their capabilities, through motivation techniques, group-work, management upskilling, and transformational coaching.

Since quitting my job last May to pursue this passion, I was lucky enough to have landed a few great contracts where I got to do exactly this. It was incredibly soul-lifting, to be able to sit in rooms of teams from small to large, and challenge their perceptions of their abilities, planning their way to greater heights, and facilitate real transformation in their confidence and relatedness. I walked out of each session feeling enlightened myself, and empowered, and the feedback that came from the participants was almost overwhelmingly positive. It was awesome.

Then my huge injury happened, and I was unable to work for 8 months.

Now however, I am on the mend, and whilst I can’t dance too much, I’ve certainly been looking forward to re-igniting this consultancy work and getting more of it. And The Capability Project is what I’ve been working on and formulating in the meanwhile!

the capability project by sharon pakir

It was certainly lovely to launch the site, its Facebook page and our Twitter feed, and even lovelier to see the oodles of cheer and great feedback pouring in. I am so truly blessed to be so supported, and whilst it’ll be a slow start I’m sure, with such steady streams of care behind me I can’t help but be sure it’s worth giving it a good shot.

the capability project facebook page by sharon pakir

we also have a Facebook page!

If you would like to have a look at what The Capability Project is all about, simply CLICK OVER for some inspired blogging (if I may say so myself!) and reminders of how to keep ourselves our BEST selves always.

You could also head along to The Capability Project’s FB Page where we discuss learning, capability building, and much much more. If you have been coached or trained by me in any realm, I would love to hear your thoughts on your experience there! You can also follow us on Twitter, where we post a few quotes that have inspired me every day!

If you know of any teams or businesses that can benefit from coaching, training, facilitation or upskilling, I would greatly appreciate any help you can give me in passing my contact along!

Thank you everyone, and share the love! :)

The Capability Project – Taking you from Good to Great

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read. remember.

When I’m feeling blue about the choices I’ve made in life, about not earning enough money or being successful like others in my peer group, about not achieving what I’d wanted to by 30, etcetera, etcetera, etcetera, I remember this:

I have incredible friends and a family that is full of love. I have passion and talent in a soulful art. I have found the love of my life and live a wonderful existence with him. I do what I love, and only what I love. I am living a dream that most people couldn’t. I am passionate, I have lived, and will continue to.

Reading this beautiful poster below helps too. Enjoy, and during this holiday week, reflect on your life too.

inspiring poster

{via thepinkandblueblog}

new year tidings

How are you ringing in the new year and the new decade?

I don’t mean celebrations for New Year’s Eve, I mean – what rituals do you do to reflect upon the year past and plan forward? What things do you do to make you feel cleansed, fortified and prepared for an even better year ahead? What about your life and habits do you seek to alter for the better each year?

New year’s resolutions are not my thing – too shallow, too wrought with difficulty, and way too arbitrary to commit to for an entire year. But each year, I do try to do some things to help me commit to the new upcoming year with excellence and zeal. This last year has been a tough one for me personally, so these little rituals will assist me even more than usual to chin up and strengthen for 2011.

1. Reflect

Each year, I make a list of things I’ve done/accomplished in the year past. Usually this starts with a timeline for each month – any travel, events, accomplishments, anything emotionally significant, it all gets written down. I usually gaze upon this list with incredulous wonder – how did I fit all that in, and no WONDER I’m exhausted!

Then, I take the chronological list and pull out themes and lessons learnt – usually I can find a few major learning points through the year. I also like to think about key areas I’ve grown in, and what I’d like to remember the year for. This applies especially to times of difficulty – if we think hard enough, we can find most trying times to be areas of huge learning.

After this exercise, I usually feel like I’ve been mentally spring-cleaned, and ready to face the future, knowing that my year past has been full of richness and life.

2. Improve my lifestyle

Each year, I think about how I can improve my lifestyle. This often comes in different forms. One year, I decided to drink 2 litres of water each day, and that habit has absolutely stuck, thankfully. Another year, I decided vegetables were my friends, and now I actually love them.

A really nice thing to do for yourself each new year is a simple one but often under-done by most people – throw out ALL your underwear and socks that have holes, aren’t quite right, aren’t loved by you. The items you always ignore in favour of the good stuff. Then go out, and buy a week’s worth of THE GOOD STUFF – wool socks, seamless undies, whatever floats your boat. It’s a wonderful way to start the new year, and a simple thing that makes getting dressed every morning an absolute joy.

This year, due to injury, I’ve spent a lot of time at home – it made me rethink my lounge attire. Why do I relegate ugly, ill-fitting track pants to home time – a time where I should feel MOST comfortable and at ease? So on my trips to Asia this year, I stocked up on silk lounge pants, 100% cotton camisoles, and life at home is ten times better now. A hundred times. A thousand times.

This year, I started making my bed every morning, and cooking more of our meals for health. S and I also explored many restaurants off a list we made last year in Melbourne. We also healthied up my finances, and helped me figure out what my true passion in work and life was. I also learnt to grow plants and garden, as well as became more committed to my home (as opposed to my work). I can think of a few things for next year too, but that’s another blog post.

The new year is a fabulous time to rethink your values, daily actions, and make healthier choices. Do it now!

3. Plan the new year

I like to take out my new datebook for the new year, and populate it with all the events coming up in the new year. From travel to events, goals, birthdays, anniversaries, etc. I’m sure most people do this, but I like to go an extra step.

I like to jot down some goals – not resolutions, but just some loose goals. They can be simple like “learn to code CSS”, or emotional “choose the kinder option daily”, or value driven “be authentic to everyone”. They could be experiential, “travel to 1 new place”, “eat one new cuisine” or a general rule “treat your body well, everyday”. I don’t consider these rules, but it does serve as a good checklist for your weekly reflection – to glance over them and think about whether you’re fulfilling the destiny you’ve set yourself.

I’ll likely post my musings on the year past and the goals for the year forward in the next week or so, and I’d love to hear your musings on your own New Year rituals too!

5 tips to get the most out of dance class

No no, this is not a  post about how to dance FASTER, though with the speed of music you get at some salsa events, I wouldn’t be too shocked if there were requests for a post of that nature!

Many students ask me how they can improve their dancing. Some tell me they do many classes a week to no avail, others tell me about how they practice all the time, and yet others tell me they want maximum results with minimal classes or practice.

Of course, as with anything, there ARE methods to improve your dancing dramatically, by re-focussing your energies and getting the most benefit out of the classes you do attend. Don’t expect me to tell you that you can do less classes though – as with any sport, maximum exposure and practice is the only guarantee to speedy improvement.

So here we go, 5 things you can do NOW to improve your dancing dramatically.

1. “SHADOW” YOUR INSTRUCTOR

This is the biggest point I emphasise all the time – the mirrors are your instant point of feedback in any dance class, and can tell you the most about what you’re doing wrong. Many students look in the mirror at their instructor, and then at themselves, unsure how to navigate the gap between the disparities in how they look. If this is you, then the art of shadowing is what you want.

Try to watch your instructor’s silhouette in its entirety rather than their individual limbs, and then try to match your silhouette to theirs. That is, if your bodies were shadows in the mirror, those shadows would match. Don’t focus on the intricacies for now, but try to get your overall form to be identical. This is the fastest way you can ensure you’re doing the move and getting your lines right.

sharon pakir teaching in korea salsa congress

teaching at the korea salsa congress 2007

It’s very difficult to watch yourself in the mirror and work out what’s wrong without feedback, however individual attention is rare in a group class. With shadowing, you can attain feedback yourself. Using your instructor as a “template”, work your body until it’s the shape and movement that you want to achieve. If you stand behind or diagonally behind your instructor, you should work until you look almost like dancing twins.

2. SEEK FEEDBACK

Often, instructors are faced with a mish mash of students – some are there to be coached and enjoy strict mentoring, and others are just there for fun and do not desire any form of feedback or real instruction for that matter. For this reason, most instructors will give some feedback but not over do it in a group setting. In order to distinguish yourself, it can be extremely helpful to your instructor if you identify yourself to them before a class (or in an email/conversation) as someone who wants feedback.

Tell them what kind of feedback you want – I have some students who have told me in no uncertain terms that IN the moment they are making a mistake, they want me to call it out, even if it’s in front of the whole class. These are the students who will improve the most rapidly, because instant feedback means you can alter your mistake instantly.

sharon pakir teaching ladies styling at new zealand salsa congress
teaching ladies styling at new zealand salsa congress 2009

Additionally, ask for feedback not just in your dancing, but in your attitude and learning style. An instructor who is exacting in their coaching style would be able to provide insights into your improvement with this feedback – you may be the nicest person in the world, but the most difficult kind of student who is blocking your own dance improvement without realising it. Feedback can go a long way to enabling you to get over emotional/mental blocks in class to clear your head and let you just dance.

If getting feedback, don’t be the student that says “but that can’t be right. There is nothing more frustrating for the instructor, since evidently, many dancers have done it before you, including the instructor. If you are finding trouble moving fast enough/getting the placement right/executing  that technique easily, it is not usually a problem with the technique you are being taught, but a problem of lack of practice on the student’s part.

Take all feedback on, and remember – it’s not supposed to come easily. If it were, then everyone would be an incredible dancer and no one would bother with classes. The fact is, dance is a difficult sport even for the professionals who do it, and even professionals ask each other for peer review and feedback.

3. PRACTICE IN A SOCIAL SETTING

Salsa is a social dance, which means that it doesn’t matter how many turn patterns, styling techniques, or solo spins you can execute in a controlled environment such as your living room – it’s what you do on the social floor that counts. After each class, try to practice what you learnt with as many partners as you can. I often counsel my students not to practice with just one dance partner – this can hamper your dancing as you get used to doing those flashy new moves only with them.

Additionally, many students prefer now to learn off dvds, youtube, and more. Salsa is a social dance, which means many of the intricacies and nuances in the dance cannot be watched to learn – it must be felt. Even if you’ve learnt something from watching, you need to try it on at least 10 different people of varying levels before you are able to ascertain if your technique is right or not.

When I was a student, I used to hit up the local dance clubs with a group of like-minded salsa friends, and we used to just dance in a corner, trying out different moves all night. We would cheer each other on, and all try the same moves on different partners, and push each other to improve, helping each other break down techniques as needed. It was fantastic, and is still one of my happiest salsa memories as a student.

In my travels, the cities with the best salsa scenes will often have a few people in the corner of their clubs doing just this – doing learning in a social setting. If you like a move that someone has done, if you want to learn something, ask each other on the spot – you’re more likely to learn it quickly!

Standing in a club alone and not dancing for a song or two? Do something to help your dancing - either practice your shines to the music, or find someone to watch and be inspired. I find so few people WATCH others dance, especially with the advent of youtube where you can sit on your couch and plug into watching the salsa greats social dance.

Try watching, the next time you’re out. There’s nothing like watching someone live dance well, even if it’s someone whom you don’t regard as amazing, or a fellow student – it is only through observation that you can learn to identify mistakes, triumphs, and inspired movement.


4. DO YOUR DRILLS & SOLO STUDY

In any kind of dance, doing drills is imperative to becoming a better dancer. I am surprised when I hear students complain to me that they just find it hard to become a good spinner, and just can’t do it, despite having danced for many years. Often, when I ask them how often they do drills, they cite “never” or “seldom” or “just in class”. Like I said above, dance is not an easy sport, and even the world’s best batsmen, ball players and sportsmen do drills every day to hone their skill.

You can drill anytime and anywhere. I used to spin down the corridors at work, in elevators, in my living room, down laneways, in salsa clubs, in regular clubs, waiting for the microwave to cook my food… Even drilling the basic salsa step is imperative to becoming a good dancer. Watch some of the greatest salsa dancers in the world – they have amazing basic steps. Often, it is how I can easily gauge the level of a dancer immediately.

malaysia salsa festival 2010 workshop with sharon pakir

teaching basic drills at malaysia salsa festival 2010

If you do drills, ensure you’re doing them with commitment. I know students who tell me they drill all the time – with no results. Often when I watch their drills, they’re doing the same wrong thing over and over again. And although they know something is wrong, they don’t change it. CHANGE IT. If you spin once and fall over, something isn’t right. Change your prep, your head position, your arms, pull your core in. There is always something you can do better, and it won’t change unless you are conscious of it!

5. LEAVE IT AT THE DOOR

This is one of the most important factors to becoming a good dancer. Good dancers, professional dancers, leave their emotions out of it. The thing is, dancing is an extremely emotional sport – often, our self-definition is tied up in “being a dancer”, our heart and soul are poured into this passion, and the love you have for the community, music, and sport, means it becomes part of your psyche.

Leave it at the door.

Had a bad day? Feel like no one wants to dance with you? Frustrated with your progress? Don’t like someone in your team? Had a fight with someone? Don’t like where you’ve been placed in a formation? Hate the shoes you’re wearing?

LEAVE IT AT THE DOOR, OR ELSE DON’T DO THE CLASS.

As soon as you walk into the studio, roll your shoulders back, give yourself a shake, and leave your emotions out of it. They aren’t going to help your development or your ability to learn. Treat it professionally, and like any other kind of study, the onus is on you to create a good environment for it.

sharon pakir practising before performance

getting into the mood & practicing before a performance with Zee - photo by salsasingapore.sg

Those students that allow their fears, insecurities, emotion and issues to cloud their head whilst dancing, are the ones who will not progress even if they have the best intention, and the most innate talent. Dancing requires that you are able to commit your body AND your mind, and if you can’t do this, it will result in injury at worst, and no progress (which is more frustrating) at best.

Dance is also a healing hobby – it’s one of those passions that if you give yourself to it, at the end of the session you’ll feel refreshed, better about most things, and head cleared. When I see a dancer walk out of a session looking clouded with thought and doubt, no matter what it’s about, I know that they haven’t given their all into the class.

Erase those thoughts, just for the duration of the class/session, and focus on dance, becoming a better dancer, and commit all of your headspace to directing your body’s movement. It’ll work, I promise.

So there you have it, 5 tips I have for utilising the classes you’re ALREADY doing, to shake up your dancing and dramatically improving. I hope it has been helpful, and that they will assist with keeping your development conscious and on the constant rise. Focus, commitment and dedication are its main points throughout all the tips – passion and zeal count for nothing without those!

These tips can be applied pretty universally to most things you’re trying to learn, so I hope you can use them in various ways to improve your learning capability – becoming a life long learner is a valuable skill and ensures you stay agile mentally forever!

And lastly – these are not my ONLY 5 tips – there are many methods for becoming a better dancer, but I thought I’d touch on those relating to attitude and focus for now. There’s more to come, I promise!

If you’ve found this post helpful, please let me know – I’d love to hear from you in the comments!

10 things:

Some things I’m really looking forward to this last month of the year, inspired by this lovely post by Arianna. I can’t say the word “December” properly, and my friends tease me ENDLESSLY (I say “deee-zem-berrr” but Aussies say “dih-sem-ba”). One of the things I’m excited about is not having to say “December” but instead saying, “THIS MONTH”, and avoiding the ribbing. So here goes, the additional 10 things I’m looking forward to THIS MONTH.

1. Christmas Lunch

I haven’t cooked a proper Christmas meal in a few years, and this year we’re hosting S’s family at our new home! A ham, lamb roast, a slow cooked pork shoulder, lots of salads, some roast vegetables, and of course plenty of dessert is what’s on the menu so far. I can’t wait for an afternoon of chats, laughter, and merriment over a meal and celebrating the season’s tidings.

2. Crazy Dance Training

The studio slows down over Deezember, but our team’s training ramps right up to be ready for the Sydney Salsa Congress in January. It’s my favourite time of year with intense sessions, watching with pride as my crew improve in leaps and bounds, and the natural bonding that ensues as we spend most evenings together. ‘Tis the season to dance!

Spin City Dance at Sydney Salsa Congress 2010. Photo by JCPHOTOGRAPHY

Spin City Dance @ Sydney Salsa Congress 2010 - Photo by JC Photography


3. Warm, Balmy Weather

Melbourne has the best summers, with azure skies and nary a cloud in sight, and now we have the perfect home to welcome the warm weather and sunshine. I can’t wait to host more summer entertaining on our deck, surrounded by lush greenery, with wine, good food, great friends, and happiness.

4. Wearing High Heels

I’ve been injured for a total of 4.5 months now, and truth be told, I’m a bit weary from it all. One of the thoughts that has kept me going has been wearing high heels again, and feeling womanly along with it. I know heels aren’t paramount to prettiness, but let me tell you, when a lady has spent weeks on end in bed, has hardly left the house and dressing up for a regular day has become a novelty, the concept of feeling glamorous is a far dream. Heeeeeeeels. Ahhhh.

5. Taking Stock; Planning Forward

2011 is already set to look busy, with a few traveling engagements and some dreams and plans for my consulting work. At the end of each year I like to take stock of all I’ve done in the year past, and then set some goals for the year to come. I don’t like calling them “resolutions”, but just simple goals, or achievements. Since 2010 has been full of events and life changes but highly underachieving due to above injury, I have high hopes for 2011. This planning exercise is highly therapeutic and often satisfying.

6. Building My Capability

The work I do involves capability development in people, teams & organisations, because it’s what I’m passionate about. I also like to apply those theories to myself. Making constant, small, incremental improvements in your life can alter dramatically the circumstances of your being, the levels of the pride and joy you take in living your personal journey, as well as encourages life long learning. I am excited about learning more as the year wraps up – only 30 days left for 2010 to delight in the newness of each day!

7. Blogging Authentically

I always blog honestly, but of late, due to my low spirits, I probably have skimmed some of the more serious details and tried to keep things over here light and happy. I do have a couple of difficult posts to write, and am crafting them slowly, and am actually looking forward to showing a true insight into a few things I’ve been through. The last couple of months have also taught me a lot about my strength in the face of adversity regarding my online presence, and I think I’m ready to tackle these topics.

8. Planning a Roadtrip

S and I will be taking a little getaway soon – nowhere too far, and just for a couple of days, but a much needed romantic time. We haven’t chosen where yet, and are supremely excited about exploring a new part of Victoria together whilst creating more amazing memories together. Plus, it’ll be summer so I’ll get to do some real chilling out. It’ll be incredible to feel free, even for just 2 days.

Sharon Pakir in Bali 2010

Feeling free in Bali, June 2010

9. Silly Season Events

The end of the year brings along Christmas parties, New Year’s Eve celebrations, catchups with old friends, lots of food and good drinks (mmm). It’s generally both festive and a time to be loving, show your care for the people around you and have a  great time! Having been a hermit for the last few months, I’m pretty excited about the silly season!

10. Falling in Love

Well, this is my everyday-all-year-round thing I look forward to – falling in love more and more with S as we traverse this crazy life we lead. It’s because of him that I have learnt to love life more and more, and it’s every day of this very life that I look at him and realise how lucky I am. This will be our first full December together since we started dating (the last I was in Singapore), and I am mucho excited!

What are you excited about for Dee-zember?

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